Here’s How You Should Really Connect with Your Audience

Let’s bury the term “email blast” once and for all.

Let me explain by quoting AWeber’s founder and CEO Tom Kulzer:

“If you learn anything about email marketing as a business owner, let it be this: You are not ‘blasting’ prospects and customers. You’re sending emails in order to make personal connections with people.”

Email marketing, at its best, is about making connections with your audience. It’s not a “blast” you send to a mass of faceless people.

But how do you transform your “email blasts” into personal, quality emails that build relationships with your audience?

In this post, I’ll explain how you can use email to truly connect and build meaningful relationships – and boost sales!

And as a special bonus, I’ll share access to a free resource in each section of this post to help you apply what you learn.

Give your subscribers content they love

Your subscribers join your email list to get something of value – an answer to a question, a solution to a problem, information or even entertainment. The more you give them, the more they’ll trust and rely on you.

And once you’ve given them that value, they’ll be more likely to do something for you in return.

In the book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini calls this the theory of reciprocity – when people feel indebted to someone who gives them something.

Cialdini says, “The implication is you have to go first. Give something: give information, give free samples, give a positive experience to people and they will want to give you something in return.”

There are quite a few ways you can give information and value to your subscribers.

Once someone joins your list, send them your latest blog posts in a weekly newsletter or email automation series to provide valuable information.

Or, consider giving people a free lead magnet or incentive in exchange for their email address. The benefits of this are two-fold. One, more people will fill out your sign up form. And two, it’s a great opportunity to kickoff your relationship with subscribers by giving them content they love.

For example, AWeber customers often tell us they struggle with writer’s block and don’t know what to write in their emails.

To resolve this problem for our audience and grow our list, we created What to Write, a free 6-day email course and guide that includes more than 45 fill-in-the-blank email templates. (Side note: If you want this course, I’m giving it away in your resource pack if you download it!)Screen Shot 2017-03-27 at 3.17.42 PM

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After people subscribe for the course, the first email they receive includes the templates and guide we promised. But on top of that, we share two additional, relevant blog posts to give subscribers even more value.

Send targeted emails to segmented audiences

Sending the wrong message to the wrong person can really hurt your email engagement and your ability to build relationships with subscribers.

It’s like a door-to-door steak salesman trying to sell meat to a vegetarian. Annoying? Yes.

When you send irrelevant messages to a subscriber, they may feel like you’re wasting their time – which can lead to disengagement, unsubscribes and spam complaints.

To avoid sending irrelevant emails, try segmenting your audience and sending them targeted messages.

Segmentation is when your filter your subscribers into a group based on a unifying factor, such as their geographic location, interests, an action they took or skill level.

This allows you to then send a targeted message by emailing relevant content to this segmented group.

For example, Spartan Race Inc. sent me an email with the subject line, “Pennsylvania: Don’t Delay, Morning Heats Are Filling Up.”


Since I live in Pennsylvania, this email was relevant to me and immediately caught my attention.

Once I opened it, the headline “Pennsylvania Ignite the Fire Inside” continued to address me on a personal level. This segmentation convinced me to open and read this email and likely increased engagement for everyone who received it.

Welcome subscribers to your list

A welcome email is a message you create and set up to automatically send to subscribers when they sign up to your list. Welcome emails get four times higher open rates and fives times higher click-through rates compared to other emails. They’re also an important part of building relationships with your subscribers and increasing engagement for future emails.

In your welcome email, you should:

  • Thank your subscriber for joining your list
  • Introduce your company
  • Explain what kind of content they’ll receive from you
  • Give them a lead magnet or incentive if you promised one on your sign up form

Let’s take a look at this welcome email from Chris Guillebeau of the Art to Non-Conformity. In this email, Chris thanks his subscriber, sets expectations, explains who he is and shares more resources.

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This email lets subscribers know they successfully joined his list, and sets the tone for future messages. Additionally, it gets people excited for his next email.

Listen to your subscribers

One of the worst things you can do in any relationship is not listen. And this applies to building a relationship with your subscribers as well.

Receiving and responding to feedback from your audience is an invaluable way to deepen your relationship with them because it allows you to send even more valuable content in the future.

So how exactly can you get feedback?

One way is to ask subscribers to reply to your email to share their thoughts, just as Thinkific does at the bottom of this newsletter:

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Or, email your subscribers a survey. In the example below, Airbnb shares a survey with an eye-catching call-to-action button and mentions how easy it is to complete.

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Asking subscribers to give you feedback by responding to your emails or completing a survey are great ways to learn how you can improve your emails and offers. And when your emails are better, you’ll be able to build stronger relationships with subscribers.

Once you receive feedback, however, make sure you listen and take action. Your subscribers will love you even more for it!

Stop blasting. Start connecting.

Ultimately, there’s one rule you can follow to make sure your emails build connections with your audience: give them value.

Your subscribers should love your emails so much that they’d never consider unsubscribing or marking you as spam. Instead, they should look forward to the next time one of your emails lands in their inbox.

By delivering content subscribers will love, segmenting your audience, welcoming them to your list and listening to their feedback, you’ll avoid blasting your subscribers with emails they don’t want.

Before you go, don’t forget to download all the free resources from this post, like 45+ free email templates and 25 content upgrade ideas!

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  1. bilimkolik

    4/3/2017 1:22 pm

    Ultimately, there’s one rule you can follow to make sure your emails build connections with your audience: give them value.

  2. Marcia

    4/6/2017 6:14 pm

    Sensational publishing, made me think of several points I need to improve on my sales, I’m missing out on some very important details.

  3. Fernando

    4/6/2017 7:41 pm

    We are on this stage and thats is exact what we want to do establish a connections with our followers and reading this great article we got some ideas on where to start as always great tips

  4. Vladimir

    4/7/2017 2:41 am

    Exactly, email blasts provide zero connection with the audience. You can’t even say that it is an audience. More like strangers and strangers don’t care for each other. Don’t be a stranger to your audience, give them something of value.

  5. Arnold Parker

    4/7/2017 5:04 pm

    I am totally new at this and I am trying to build my traffic count.I don’t have any advertisers.Can A Weber set me up with good advertisers and handle my account until I learn the ropes?

  6. Walmart one login

    4/8/2017 2:05 pm

    What an amazing article, really it is very helpful and everyone should follow to give the value to the audience. Sending mail without any response doesn’t make any sense and also it is a wastage of time. Give them respect and value so that you can build good relationship with the audience.

  7. Full indir

    4/10/2017 7:33 pm

    Email marketing, at its best, is about making connections with our audience. Thanks for this article

  8. Ross Hall

    4/13/2017 2:50 am

    The segmentation comment is spot on. Back in the day I ran a highly successful email newsletter for the financial services industry. I used segmentation to change the language used in the newsletter to target specific audiences. Sometimes this was simple word changes (talking about policies for brokers or products for the general audience), othertimes entire paragraphs would be reworded to include or exclude anecdotes.

    Even the subject line changed.

    Over time I encouraged the audience to self-identify their segments by watching clicks and asking survey questions.

    It took time and some custom tools to get this done, but that was back in the early 2000s and even then the ROI was pretty high. Unfortunately today I don’t see much of this happening, even though the tools have come along a bit.

  9. case tản nhiệt nước

    4/13/2017 11:25 pm

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  10. Bullet Force Mutilplayer

    4/21/2017 10:20 pm

    I’m having the same problem. You saved me. Thanks for sharing!